'I'm following their lead': Mom can't get any peace while staying with her in-laws as they keep having guests over, decides to repay the favor at 9AM

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Sep 22, 2024 9:00 AM EDT

Many families these days find themselves in a financial pinch and have to stay with a family member in order to save up. So, when this family found themselves homeless, the in-laws happily opened their doors for them. The in-laws welcomed the mother, father, and kids and have all been enjoying a roof together. The in-laws keep living their life like usual, which makes sense because it is their home, right? Well, the mother who was welcomed in by the in-laws is getting petty for just that. She says they keep inviting guests over at inconvenient times for her and her family and they don't even warn her. So, instead of opening up a dialogue about it, she starts to give them a dose of their own medicine and has people over without alerting them. She goes to Reddit to share her petty revenge that she was so pleased with but was met with many taking the side of the in-laws. See for yourself below! 

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    "[My in-laws] have been driving me insane giving me no heads up at all of people coming over.'
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    Gave my in laws an early morning surprise. Guests! My family has recently moved in with my in laws and I am truly beyond grateful for the help. I'll just get that out there cause I'm about to seem like a brat but I swear I'm doing everything I can to respect their space. Wonderful people helping us in our hour of need! I love them.
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    That said... they have been driving me insane giving me no heads up at all of people coming over. Our bedroom is 10 feet away from the living room and 25 feet from the kitchen. These are the only places to have guests. Last week alone there were two band rehearsals during my kids bedtime and another night my sister in law came over with her 4 year old at 9 PM. All school nights. I come home ready to unwind with what would be our usual quiet time before bed and NO. No peace for you!
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    So I'm following their lead as I'm sure they don't mean to do it maliciously. It must just not be a big deal for people to come over. Right? This morning my sons fantastic therapists were scheduled to visit for our first in home parent session. I said good morning to my bleary eyed mother in law at 8:50 AM when she came out of her room and gave her more notice than I will likely ever receive of our arriving guests. A whopping 10 mins.
    via wheelynice
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    It's a recurring appointment but I doubt anyone needs to know that either so she'll just have to feel what I feel a couple more Wednesday mornings until it clicks.
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    Coolfarm88 • 12h ago Coming from someone who has only had terrible in-laws... Communicate. You like them, they have opened their home to you. Talk to them! Don't demand but ask. Ask if they can give you a heads up. Ask if band practice can be held somewhere else sometimes, or earlier, so that bedtime can still work for your kids. Maybe offer to cook something for the band so they can eat quickly and start at 6 PM instead of 9 PM? Please, don't be petty, be as kind as they have been to you.
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    floobidedoo 16h ago • Your story gave me a flashback. My parents let a family of 5 live with us for almost 4 months when I was in high school. My mother had a home daycare and had looked after all 3 boys (the elder boys were in kindergarten and grade 1 at the time). After dinner, my siblings did the dishes and tidied up while the boys played. And their parents did nothing with them until bedtime. It was like I we were still on babysitting duty. I couldn't study, it was so stressful. Mainly becau
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    North_Orchid 14h ago • Is passive aggression really more effective than direct communication to discuss with your inlaws your concerns with the late night company? msdemeanour • 12h ago Judging from their replies it's their go to LoveTheHustleBud • 7h ago Yeah, dealing with the main character here lol can only imagine how they ended up in this position to begin with.
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    gumballbubbles • 9h ago Why don't you just talk to her instead of trying to give her a taste of her own medicine? If they aren't giving you a heads up, maybe they don't know you expect one. It can be frustrating on your end, but remember it's probably not easy on theirs either. You sound like you are trying to get revenge which is petty and immature. You are in her house and you need to respect that. They are doing you the favor not the other way around.
    via gumballbubbles
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    Captain JackJ • 15h ago I'll be real here, you need to grow up. Unless you left out the part where you attempted to have an adult conversation with them? The reality is you are living in their space, they could certainly be more aware/mindful of having people over. You are using this as a replacement for an adult conversation and it reflects worse on you than it does on them. They are doing YOU a favor, not the other way around.
    via CaptainJackJ
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    ViolentLoss 6h ago This is terrible. These people took you in at a difficult time and you're complaining? Do you have any concept of what an inconvenience you already are to them, just being in their space? Of course they're not going to tell you that, but I don't blame them for not tailoring their routine to your desires. "...our usual quiet time before bed"? Are you serious? You can have that luxury back when you have your own living space. I wish you the best in getting back on your feet, but
    via ViolentLoss
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    BlueLarkspur 1929 ⚫ 9h ago Their house, their rules. Maybe the band practice is an attempt to get you out so they can have some privacy again. They don't need your permission to live their lives as they see fit in their own home. Are you helping out? Paying for utilities?
    via BlueLarkspur_1929

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